Privacy Policy

The short version: we keep your speech only as long as the page you get back needs it, we never publish it or use it for anything but your result, payments go through Stripe and we never see your card number, and there are no accounts, so there is nothing to log into and nothing to close.

What we collect, and why

The speech check, the draft builder and the other writing tools

• Your draft, or your answers to a tool’s questions, plus the role you pick and any names you give. We need these to produce the result.
• The result itself, which quotes or reuses what you wrote.

This covers the speech check, the first-draft builder, the vow writer, the ceremony script writer for officiants, the toast writer for holidays and retirements, The Room (six AI guests reacting to your speech) and Speech Remix. Each result, with what you wrote, is stored under a random, unguessable link and deleted after seven days. The link is unlisted and the page is marked so search engines do not index it. We do not read your speech, and we do not use it to improve anything.

Some tools never send your words anywhere: the vows check, the cliché detector, the AI-sound check, the printable vow book, the Speech Keepsake (and any photo you add to it) and the speech length calculator all run in your browser.

Purchases

• Payment is handled by Stripe on Stripe’s pages. We never see or store your card number. Stripe sends us the email address you entered at checkout so we can send you the link to your order, and a payment reference so we can find your order if you write to us.
• A paid rewrite and delivery pack, with the check and draft they were made from, are kept for 30 days so you can come back to them. There are no accounts, so the link and the order email are how you get back.
• A Wedding Party Pass, with the buyer’s email and which credits were used, is kept for six months, the life of the pass.
• Our order log keeps the payment reference, the product, the amount and the order’s link id for a little over a year, for refunds and our own bookkeeping. It holds no speech text.

Email

We send two kinds of email, and nothing else.

Emails you ask for, once. The link to your order after a purchase, or your pass link; the link to your check, if you use the “email me this link” box; your speech, if you use “send it to my phone” and type an address; the links to your Story Jar, Speech Hub or planner page, if you give an address there. These are one-off replies to something you did, so they have no unsubscribe link.

Reminders you sign up for. Three short reminders before the wedding (three weeks, one week and two days out), and one note a couple of days after asking how it went, if you add your wedding date in the “email me this link” box, or if a Speech Hub speaker adds their own address on their page; the five lessons of the free email course, one a day, after which it stops; and, if you gave us your address with “email me this link” and then opened checkout without finishing, one reminder the next day, once ever. Each of these has an unsubscribe link, and unsubscribing stops all of them. A Story Jar owner can also get a note when a new story arrives, at most once an hour, switched off on the jar’s page.

If you answer the after-wedding note. We keep how you said it went, anything you wrote, and the first name and role you gave, for up to two years, so we can learn what helps. We don’t ask for your speech. We quote you on the site only if you ticked the box saying we may, only after a person has read it, and only with the name and role you gave. Email hello@toastdoctor.com and we’ll take a quote down or delete your answer.

When you give us an address for any of these, we keep a small record of it, where it came from and whether you unsubscribed, for a year, so we don’t email you twice for the same thing. The saved check link is kept 30 days, a course signup 60 days, and wedding-date reminders until a few days after the wedding. If you unsubscribe, we keep your address on a do-not-email list for ten years, so it stays stopped. A speech rewritten with a Party Pass credit is never emailed to the person who bought the pass. We do not send newsletters. If that ever changes, it will be opt-in and this page will say so first.

Story Jar

If you start a Story Jar, we keep your first name, the name of the person you’re toasting and their partner’s if you give it, the speech you’re giving, and your email if you add one. People you send the link to give a name, optionally how they know the person, and their story. Stories are shown only on your private page, whose address only you have; the share link can add stories but never shows them. If you ask for a suggestion, the stories are sent to Anthropic’s model to read, the same way a speech check is. Removing a story hides it from your page. The jar, every story in it, and the suggestion are deleted 90 days after the jar was started.

Speech Hub

If a couple starts a Speech Hub, we keep their first names, the wedding date if given, their note to speakers, their email if they add one, and each speaker’s name, speech, time limit and how the couple describes them. Each speaker’s page records simple progress (opened the page, found a story, wrote a draft, checked it, how many times they rehearsed), never anything they wrote, and the speaker can hide it from the couple. If the couple adds an officiant, the officiant gets a link that works the same way. If either partner saves their vows timing to the Hub from the vows check, we keep only the length in seconds and the number of promises, never the vows.

If a speaker chooses to add their speech to the couple’s Toast Book, we keep that speech and any note they add; the couple can read it from the wedding date, never before, and the speaker can change it or take it out at any time. Everything in a Hub, the Toast Book included, is deleted two months after the wedding date, or a year after the Hub was started if no date was given. A Hub nobody changes for about 13 months is deleted then, even if the wedding is further off.

We don’t email speakers unless a speaker adds their own address on their page for the reminders; the couple sends the links. A wedding planner can set up Hubs for their clients from a planner page; we keep the business name, an email if they add one, and the list of Hubs they set up, for about 13 months after the page was last changed. The planner sees the same progress counts a couple sees, never anything a speaker wrote.

Story Interviewer

The interview stays in your browser tab. Each answer is sent to Anthropic’s model, with the answers before it, to ask the next question and to write your story at the end. We don’t store the answers or the story, and closing the tab clears them.

Rehearsal Mode’s delivery coach

The coach uses your browser’s own speech recognition to follow along while you practice. We never receive the audio or what you said; the results are worked out in your browser and only your last run’s time and pace are kept, on your device. In Chrome and Edge, the browser itself sends the audio to Google’s or Microsoft’s speech service to turn it into words, under their terms. Safari may do it on your device or send it to Apple, depending on your settings.

Live speech bingo

If you play live speech bingo, we keep the game, the first name each guest types in, and the squares they mark, so the game works on the night. All of it is deleted two days after the game is started. There are no accounts and no email addresses.

Contact form

If you write to us, your message and address are emailed to our inbox so we can reply. Nothing else happens to it.

Keeping the free tools free

To stop the free tools being abused, we count requests from each visitor using a one-way scrambled form of your IP address, not the address itself, and the count clears within about two hours. Our host, Vercel, also sees IP addresses in its normal request logs.

Site analytics

We use two analytics services. Vercel Web Analytics counts visits and pages without cookies and without identifying you. Google Analytics uses cookies to tell returning visitors from new ones and to record events like “a check was run” or “a rewrite was bought,” with IP addresses anonymized. It also receives the address of each page you view, including unlisted result pages, though never what’s on them. We use it to see whether the site works, not to advertise to you. To opt out of both in a browser, open this page and press the button; a browser extension that blocks Google Analytics also works.

Our tools on other websites

Some of our tools can be embedded on other websites. Inside them there are no cookies and no Google Analytics. When one loads, we note the name of the website it runs on (like example.com) and count it. Nothing about the person using it.

Who else touches your data

These are the only third parties involved, and each one only for the job named:

• Anthropic runs the AI model behind every AI feature on the site: the check, the draft, the rewrite and delivery pack, the vow, ceremony and toast writers, The Room, Speech Remix, the Story Interviewer and Story Jar suggestions. Your text is sent to it for that purpose only. Under Anthropic’s commercial terms, text sent through its API is not used to train its models.
• Vercel hosts the site and runs the analytics described above.
• Upstash provides the database where results and drafts are stored for the periods above.
• Stripe processes payments.
• Resend sends all of our email.
• Cloudflare forwards email sent to hello@toastdoctor.com to our inbox.
• Google runs Google Analytics, described above.

We do not sell personal information, share it for targeted advertising, or pass it to anyone not on this list. These services are based in the United States, so if you use the site from elsewhere, your information is processed in the US.

Cookies and your browser

Google Analytics sets its usual cookies, described above, which you can refuse by opting out. The site otherwise sets none. To save you retyping, your browser keeps some things in its own local storage, on your device only: drafts you paste into the in-browser checks and the vows check, your Party Pass link, your Speech Hub or bingo place, and whether you dismissed the cookie notice. Clearing your browser data removes them. Stripe sets its own cookies on its checkout pages.

Why we use it

We use what you give us to provide the thing you asked for: the check, the draft, the order, the reminder. We send reminders and course lessons only because you signed up for them, and you can stop them any time. We use analytics and the abuse counts above because we need to know the site works and keep the free tools free; you can opt out of the analytics any time.

Your rights

Wherever you live, you can ask us for a copy of what we hold about you, ask us to correct it, ask us to delete it, or object to how we use it. Email hello@toastdoctor.com, with the link to the page if it’s about a result, and we’ll answer within 30 days. Because there are no accounts, an email address or a page link is usually how we find your data, so we may ask for one. If you’re in the UK or the EU and you’re not happy with our answer, you can complain to the Information Commissioner’s Office or your local data protection authority.

Children

The site is for adults giving wedding speeches. We do not knowingly collect information from anyone under 16.

Deleting your data early

Everything deletes on its own, on the schedules above. If you want a draft, a result, a Story Jar or a Hub gone sooner, email hello@toastdoctor.com with the link to the page and we will delete it. If you want your email address removed, say so in the same message.

Changes

If this policy changes in a way that matters, the date at the top changes with it, and anything that expands what we collect will be described here before it takes effect.

Contact

BMCM LLC, Illinois, United States. Email hello@toastdoctor.com or use the contact page.